Love is a very complicated thing. It is one of the most common emotions
in the world. One word cannot truly express the meaning of love, so it
is only natural that a fear of love can develop in anybody, you, your
sister, even the person next to you Maybe you're afraid of being loved,
or you're afraid of
falling in love. Whatever the case, and whatever your past experiences that may have caused this fear, you
can turn your fear into love.
1)
Figure out what you're actually afraid of.
There is a good chance that you are not afraid of love itself, rather,
something more specific. For example, you may think you're afraid of
being loved, when in reality, you fear getting to know a person who is
interested in you. Or, you may think you are afraid of falling in love,
when you are actually afraid of losing control in your life.
2
Identify a cause for your fear.
Once you know what you are afraid of, figure out if there is something
that caused you to fear it. In most cases, a fear can be caused by past
experience. Maybe you got to know someone a couple of years ago and you
realized that they were not who you originally thought they were. Or,
maybe you used to be madly in love with someone and all of your other
interests and hobbies suffered because of it.
3
Figure out what you learned from the experience, instead of blaming yourself over and over.
If that person wasn't who you thought they were, then now you know that
you shouldn't assume that you know someone, when you barely know them.
Or, if the person you were madly in love with was detrimental to all of
your other interests, then you now know you should find someone that
supports your interests and hobbies and is a positive influence on your
life.
4
Work on conquering your fear, keeping what you've learned in mind.
It won't happen overnight. In fact, you shouldn't try to make it
disappear at once, or you will overwhelm yourself. Face your fear as
much as possible over a long period of time until it no longer is a fear
for you anymore.
5
Realize that it's all right if you fail at love. Everyone fails at love at some point or another so you're not alone.
SOME USEFUL TIPS
- Concerning the common worry, "Is he/she the right one for me?," or , "Should I ask him/her out?,"
remember that you probably never will be 100% sure. Sometimes you just
have to take a chance and learn from it if it doesn't work out. But if
it does, you will be very glad you took a chance and made it happen.
- Don't worry about whether or not you're beautiful or ugly. Everyone's beautiful in their own special way. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise, and believe it.
- Don't idolize this person. They have flaws too.
- Be yourself! People will notice if you're trying to be someone else.
The best thing you can be is yourself. If they don't like you for who
you are, then they're not worth it.
- Don't over-think - use your heart!
- Have confidence in yourself! And be sure to love yourself!
- Be real and don't dress or act in ways that are not true to yourself.
- Good luck!
- There's someone for everyone
- Nobody wants to be lonely! So if you think about it, would you
rather try your hand at love or just give up and be alone your whole
life? Everyone is a pretty decent person and kind.
- You will have many good experiences and bad experiences when it
comes to love. You may feel the desire to just give up. You should never
completely give up. Instead, choose a different path.
- Sometimes people can't find love because of their high expectations
for a potential relationship. Sometimes it's just best to settle for
less as long as the person you're eyeing is a decent person in all
respects.
- Don't be sad if you have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend before.
There are other people who have never had a relationship before so
you're not alone.
- There is somebody for everybody out there. Sometimes, the best thing
to do is to give it time and someone new will come along. Time heals
all wounds. All you have to do is give it time.