Thursday, October 31, 2013

How to End Your Fear of Love




Love is a very complicated thing. It is one of the most common emotions in the world. One word cannot truly express the meaning of love, so it is only natural that a fear of love can develop in anybody, you, your sister, even the person next to you Maybe you're afraid of being loved, or you're afraid of falling in love. Whatever the case, and whatever your past experiences that may have caused this fear, you can turn your fear into love.

1)
Figure out what you're actually afraid of. There is a good chance that you are not afraid of love itself, rather, something more specific. For example, you may think you're afraid of being loved, when in reality, you fear getting to know a person who is interested in you. Or, you may think you are afraid of falling in love, when you are actually afraid of losing control in your life.
2
Identify a cause for your fear. Once you know what you are afraid of, figure out if there is something that caused you to fear it. In most cases, a fear can be caused by past experience. Maybe you got to know someone a couple of years ago and you realized that they were not who you originally thought they were. Or, maybe you used to be madly in love with someone and all of your other interests and hobbies suffered because of it. 
 

3
Figure out what you learned from the experience, instead of blaming yourself over and over. If that person wasn't who you thought they were, then now you know that you shouldn't assume that you know someone, when you barely know them. Or, if the person you were madly in love with was detrimental to all of your other interests, then you now know you should find someone that supports your interests and hobbies and is a positive influence on your life.

4
Work on conquering your fear, keeping what you've learned in mind. It won't happen overnight. In fact, you shouldn't try to make it disappear at once, or you will overwhelm yourself. Face your fear as much as possible over a long period of time until it no longer is a fear for you anymore. 
 
5
Realize that it's all right if you fail at love. Everyone fails at love at some point or another so you're not alone. 
 

 SOME USEFUL TIPS 

 

  • Concerning the common worry, "Is he/she the right one for me?," or , "Should I ask him/her out?," remember that you probably never will be 100% sure. Sometimes you just have to take a chance and learn from it if it doesn't work out. But if it does, you will be very glad you took a chance and made it happen.
  • Don't worry about whether or not you're beautiful or ugly. Everyone's beautiful in their own special way. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise, and believe it.
  • Don't idolize this person. They have flaws too.
  • Be yourself! People will notice if you're trying to be someone else. The best thing you can be is yourself. If they don't like you for who you are, then they're not worth it.
  • Don't over-think - use your heart!
  • Have confidence in yourself! And be sure to love yourself!
  • Be real and don't dress or act in ways that are not true to yourself.
  • Good luck!
  • There's someone for everyone
  • Nobody wants to be lonely! So if you think about it, would you rather try your hand at love or just give up and be alone your whole life? Everyone is a pretty decent person and kind.
  • You will have many good experiences and bad experiences when it comes to love. You may feel the desire to just give up. You should never completely give up. Instead, choose a different path.
  • Sometimes people can't find love because of their high expectations for a potential relationship. Sometimes it's just best to settle for less as long as the person you're eyeing is a decent person in all respects.
  • Don't be sad if you have never had a boyfriend/girlfriend before. There are other people who have never had a relationship before so you're not alone.
  • There is somebody for everybody out there. Sometimes, the best thing to do is to give it time and someone new will come along. Time heals all wounds. All you have to do is give it time.